It's rare that I watch a movie or read a book and want to do a review on it, but since this movie hits pretty close to home, I figured I needed to give my opinion on it. Well, maybe I don't really need to, but I'm going to, so deal with it!
*Warning* I will be posting spoilers, so if you haven't seen the movie and don't want is spoiled, please stop reading now!
Overall the movie was pretty good. Of course with my hormones in overdrive, I had quite a few moments where I broke down and cried:
- When the younger couple had a miscarriage. That is currently my WORST FEAR and I cried like a friggin' baby when that happened.
- When J.Lo had her breakdown regarding IVF and bad eggs and it being her fault and spending all their 401K on the treatments. I still tear up thinking about that moment!
- When Elizabeth Banks had her c-section and lost all that blood so she coded on the table and they rushed the husband out. Another fear of mine and, well, tears...just tears.
-Then, of course, when J.Lo got her baby from Ethiopia.
There were parts that I really enjoyed:
- How Elizabeth Banks' character just loathed being pregnant. It just goes to show that even though we infertiles give anything and everything to get pregnant, we can still hate it the whole time. It's like, people just assume that since we're finally pregnant, we finally got what we fought so hard for, we will act all CareBears and Rainbows (like Brooklyn Decker's character). I can't tell you how many times I see infertile women complain about pregnancy and people just rip in to her because "How dare you be miserable? That means you're ungrateful!". I think it accurately portrayed that not every pregnancy is the same and the end result, a beautiful baby, is what everyone is truly after.
- Chris Rock and the rest of the "Dad's Club" was straight hilarity! "Last week, my kid ate a cigarette." It just goes to show that you won't be the mythical "perfect parent" and that's ok. Just, please don't let your kid ingest too many cigarettes, mmkay?
- Elizabeth Banks peeing on no less than 5 pregnancy tests. I took 3 the morning I found out and if I hadn't given my other one to a cousin, I would probably pee on it too.
- Joe Manganiello doing pull-ups while being shirtless. HUMINA HUMINA!
The part that kinda pissed me off:
- You soon realize in the beginning that Elizabeth Banks and her husband have been trying to have a baby for a while. She has an alarm go off on her phone (to alert her to the fact that she is ovulating) and she desperately grabs her husband to jump his bones. That part is more or less true, at least I know that feeling and I have seen the "husband's" hesitation as sex has become like an "routine/act" as opposed to spontaneous and fun.
Later on (I'm assuming that day) the wife and husband go on a date and the wife announces that she wants to "quit trying" for a while, "just enjoy being married" as she downs a glass of wine after not drinking for 2 years. This, of course, leads to unscheduled sex. A few weeks down the road, BAM!, she finds out she's pregnant.
The entire scene I just mentioned above implies to the audience that because they finally had "spontaneous, relaxing sex" that they wound up pregnant. That just as soon as she decided to "stop trying", she got what she wanted. To me, that is just ridiculous. Yes, we all hear of these magical couples who try and try and as soon as they decide to stop trying, the get pregnant...but people, that's 1 in 8 odds. It does not happen to everyone. AND it has been proven that stress is not correlated with being fertile or infertile! It's seriously one of the most frustrating things when people tell me a story about a couple that just "gave up and they finally got pregnant". It's rare and guess what, it doesn't always work! So for the movie to imply that, I was a pretty ticked off. I have yet to find a movie that accurately portrays what most infertile couples go through. Even Baby Mama pissed me off a bit, but that's a different (if ever) review.
Bottom line, if you happen to speak to someone who is having difficulty trying to conceive, don't tell them to "Relax and it'll happen" or share a story about "This one couple who stopped trying/adopted and BAM! got pregnant"...just give them a hug and offer them decaf coffee/tea or a glass of wine, depending on where they are in their cycle.
Well, there's my review. I'm sure I'm missing some parts (I watched the movie on Saturday and I've slept A LOT since then), but if you'd like to add something, feel free to comment below!
As always, baby dust and good thought!
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